Foster Care Blues

One of the things that you don't count on too much doing foster care is the pain of seperation.

Taking care of children is a rewarding endeavor; however, taking care of someone else's children has some draw backs. You become attached to them. This is not so much a draw back as a casualty of the process. You take time to nurture, care and provide for a child and when the time comes they return to their families.

What you don't count on is the pain associated with that seperation. You may see them again and you may not.

My mother exprienced the same thing a few times; my own oldest daughter for example, she was without her mother. Her mother died shortly after she my oldest was born. I was a single father who relied on my own mother to babysit while I was working. My mother's casualty came when I remarried and my oldest no longer needed the constant babysitting from my mother. Now the difference in her case was she still gets to see my daughter regularly.

My casualty is not knowing how they are doing, not seeing or hearing from them and not being able to just call up and see how school is going...

I wouldn't change a thing - but ouch...